After coming to terms with being a 6w7, rather than a 7w6, my friend Debbie has been looking at how type plays out in her life. The enthusiasm of her 7 wing really comes through when she talks about getting hooked on things that interest and excite her. She was also quite candid about some of the challenges of being a 6, for which I’m very grateful.
This is part of a continuing conversation. Click here for Part 1.
D: If something sounds interesting to me, I don’t care how busy I am, I figure I can do this. And I do.
J: And being able to accomplish things and get the feedback from doing that is important.
D: True, because for the most part, when you accomplish something, it’s really highly positive feedback. But what I’ve come to realize is that even though I was getting positive feedback, it was based on what other people wanted from me and not really what I saw as personally meaningful. It was always what someone else thought was important.
J: What’s different now?
D: Now I’m trying to explore the things that would be more meaningful for me so I can be more selective about what I say yes to. Is this particular project something I would like to do? Sure, some of the importance of the project comes from outside, but maybe it’s also something I want to do. I also want to find things to do that are important to me—regardless of anyone else—and find the time to do them. I don’t want to just fill my time with other people’s projects and to-do lists.
J: You don’t want to only do things for other people’s approval or acknowledgement.
D: Right. Sometimes my own approval and acknowledgement are enough. Continue reading
Nine Paths 